<H3>Birth Order</h3>

The Don and I spent almost the entire evening at Borders yesterday. And one of the books I found totally captivating was this one --->

The author really goes deep into the psyche of a person's personality and how it relates to his/her birth order. Needless to say most of what was said about me as an only child is totally true and it gave me insights into the things I would do in certain given conditions. There is even a section on partners and what would happen if I were to marry a First-born, middle child, youngest child or another only child (lucky I didn't It's potential disaster!) Another section was on what kind of parent I'd be, given my birth order. It was such a great book. I finished reading all the relevant sections to me right there.

I wrote about this birth order thing before but this book is much more detailed than that website I quoted.

Best Birth Order Marriages
Only child and youngest; first-born and youngest; middle child and youngest: Gender plays a role here as well. If you want the absolute best match, it's female only or first-born marrying a male youngest child who has older sisters. The last born with older sisters is going to be the sort of person who brings out the maternal instinct in women, and the oldest sister is likely to have great maternal urges. He would have grown up with girls who have doted on him. This is similar to the treatment he seeks in a wife, and the best place he'll find it is with an oldest sister. The match works both ways. The first-born needs someone to show her pleasures of sunsets, rainbows, and to remind her that it can be fun to let her mind wander and do something mad or different. The last-born needs someone to show him that while having fun is a wonderful thing, it takes hard work and perseverance to make those daydreams into reality.

First-born married to the last-born: This relationship is an excellent combination. First-born can teach last-born how to be better organised and that there are times when life must be taken seriously. The last-born teaches the first-born that it's okay to have fun once in a while.

Worst birth order mix
Only-child female and an only-child male: Not only will the two butt heads, but neither will have much of a clue about the other gender.

First-born married to a first-born: This relationship is likely to be high friction - either butting heads from day one, or falling into a controller-pleaser pattern. It can be difficult to make this pairing work.

First-born married to a middle child: The danger here is that the middle-born may alter his or her own behaviour to please the first-born. While the middle one makes a good match for anyone (except, perhaps, for another middle), she may find the first-born to be somewhat intimidating and thus will need drawing out. If you marry a hard-driving first-born, you may be inclined to give up your own desires and dreams to please your more dominant, first-born spouse. However, if you have last-born tendencies, this can be a very good match for you.

Then I found this birth order test and realised I have both only child and first born tendencies. Wat's yours ?

You Are Likely an Only Child

At your darkest moments, you feel frustrated. At work and school, you do best when you're organizing. When you love someone, you tend to worry about them. In friendship, you are emotional and sympathetic. Your ideal careers are: radio announcer, finance, teaching, ministry, and management. You will leave your mark on the world with organizational leadership, maybe as the author of self-help books.

The Birth Order Predictor