<h3> Once you have the best, you don't need to look at the rest</h3>

As we were driving to work this morning, there was a very interesting discussion on Class 95's Morning Show. FD said ever since he became a married man, he found no reason to look/ogle/appreciate/ other women passing by, no matter how sexy or good-looking they are. He reasons "When you have the BEST, why bother looking at the rest?" Rod seemed flabbergasted at the idea, notwithstanding the fact that he is married. He thinks "A man's a man's a man" and they just can't help it, married or not.

I think thats great food for thought. How are you supposed to react after marriage when faced with a heart-throbbing member of the opposite sex? How will your partner react? Are you supposed to shield your eyes from all eye candy?

Preferably, I'd want my future husband to share FD's policy. It'd be a great compliment indeed if he feels that he already has the best and has no need to look at another woman. But when I think of my own reaction to seeing a good-looking man, I realise expecting so from him is double standards. No I do not flirt, or gawk or flutter my eye-lids like some of you would already be imagining by now, but I'd sure take a second look. After all, I go GOO=GOO-GA-GA when I see Tom Cruise or Aamir Khan and that's just on screen. I can't imagine how I'd react to seeing them in person.

Perhaps its inherent in us naturally to give a second glance at something (or someone) that catches our eyes. But I reckon there is a big bold line (in red, no less) between merely looking at a cute member of the opposite sex and ogling, or fantasizing or worse, making cat-calls or chatting them up. And if your partner is there next to you, if you can't catch a glance through the corner of your eyes (without him noticing), then you'd better just forget about looking and walk on.

I guess with being married comes responsibility. A responsibility to not hurt your partner's feelings and to maintain his or her good name. (with or without your spouse next to you) Being married also means that you should conduct yourself in a way that befits a married person. You should accept the one you marry as the one for you and not cast a roving eye onto other better looking specimens.

And I suppose thats where I draw the line. I feel its unreasonable to demand and insist that he NEVER EVER looks at another woman ever again. Just as I would feel it is unreasonable for him to expect the same of me. One thing we do now is that I am the one who usually points out a pretty girl by saying things like "Lawanye that girl!!". Apart from genuinely thinking that the person is indeed good looking, I guess its like a pre-emptive thing I do to make him less guilty for looking and to turn it into something harmless. The way I see it, I'd rather turn it into a positive thing than bicker and argue our way if I ever catch him looking at someone. I don't think I'll ever have a problem with this though, The Don doesn't have a roving eye. (Or so it seems!!! hhmmm!!!)

But so far, I have not dared point out a good-looking man. Maybe I should try and see what he'd say to that, hehehe.

I wonder if married guys consciously abstain from looking at a sexy woman passing by or if they look anyway with the thought that "looking is harmless" Do they even think of their significant other when their eyes go wander? Do they even remember they are married ?? I tried engaging The Don on this issue early this morning but he resisted and chose to stay politically correct and stay on "safe" ground. It'd be mighty interesting to dive into the workings of the mind of a married man when find themselves in such a situation? Any confessions???